570. Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less
Rating: ☆☆☆1/2
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Author: Tiffany Dufu
Genre: Non Fiction, Self Improvement, Memoir
304 pages, published February 14, 2017
Reading Format: Book
Summary
In Drop the Ball, Tiffany Dufu the changes she made after realizing that trying to do it all as a working mother and wife wasn’t working for her and was causing her to feel major stress and resentment. Her solution was to let things go, especially her preconceived ideas of what success in her professional and personal life looked like, and to enlist the help of her husband, friends and family.
Quotes
“[These] powerful women understood that success in imperfect. What would happen if we all started speaking honestly and openly about our priorities and the choices we make about how we spend our time? How inspiring would it be to the young women in our offices if they saw female executives who don’t pretend to do it all, but are open and honest about the balls they have dropped to get where they are today? Women need to support one another by being honest about the compromises we make and by speaking openly about the help we require from our partners and other support systems.”
“What you do is less important than the difference you make.”
“Just because you’re better at doing something doesn’t mean you doing it is the most productive use of your time.”
“Drop the Ball: to release unrealistic expectations of doing it all and engage others to achieve what matters most to us, deepening our relationships and enriching our lives”
“Trying to meet impossible expectations will only continue to harm our physical and psychological well-being.”
“Done is better than perfect.”
“The greatest privilege that men in the workplace have had isn’t a corporate or public policy. It’s a partner at home. A nonpaid working dad (a.k.a. Stay-at-home dad) might be some working moms’ idea of a superhero. But nonpaid working dads are not the ultimate solution. We do not need role reversal; rather, we need a new model of teamwork in which both parents are meaningfully engaged at work and at home, collaboratively making decisions that reflect what matters most to them.”
“In 2014, researchers at Penn State found that women who juggle work and home were proportionately much more likely to experience higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol than were men.”
“I used to be the queen of domesticity, a Good Housekeeping cover model in the making. I was also an ambitious professional. These two identities had always been on a collision course. But I was oblivious to that fact until after the crash.”
“Many women experience a sense of pressure that men rarely do—the pressure to succeed at work and to keep things running smoothly at home, especially when children arrive on the scene.”
My Take
As a recent retiree who just dropped her youngest child off at college, I am not the target audience for this book which focuses on strategies for working moms. However, I found that for the most part the advice offered by Dufu would have been helpful during my busy working mom years. I definitely recommend it for young women who are in that phase of their life.