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173. Your Money and Your Brain

Rating:  ☆☆☆1/2

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Author:   Jason Zweig

Genre:  Non-Fiction, Personal Finance, Psychology, Economics

352 pages, published August 1, 2007

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

Your Money and Your Brain explores what happens inside our brains when we think about money?  The answer is quite a lot, actually, and some of it isn’t good for our financial health.  Author Jason Zweig, a veteran financial journalist, explains why smart people make stupid financial decisions and what they can do to avoid these mistakes.  Zweig’s investigation touches on the latest research in neuroeconomics, a new discipline that combines psychology, neuroscience, and economics to better understand financial decision making.  He shows why we often misunderstand risk and why we tend to be overconfident about our investment decisions.

 

Quotes 

“The market is a pendulum that forever swings between unsustainable optimism (which makes stocks too expensive) and unjustified pessimism (which makes them too cheap). The Intelligent Investor is a realist who sells to optimists and buys from pessimists.”

 

“The alluring, long-shot chance of a huge gain is the grease that lubricates the machine of innovation.”

  

My Take

In Your Money and Your Brain, Author Jason Zweig explores many different aspects of how our brain has evolved to deal with risk, gain, loss, greed and fear.  When we allow the reptilian amygdala portion brain to control our investing decisions, we get into trouble by doing things like selling after the market has taken a huge drop, thereby locking in our losses.  In the same manner as JL Collins explains in The Simple Path to Wealth, Zweig describes how a simple buy and hold strategy with index funds is the best way to outsmart your counterproductive inclinations.  Anyone who has ever looked back on a financial decision and marveled at their own stupidity will benefit from reading this book.

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169. The Simple Path to Wealth

Rating:  ☆☆☆☆

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Author:   JL Collins

Genre:  Non-Fiction, Personal Finance, Self Improvement, Economics

288 pages, published June 17, 2016

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

Legendary Blogger JL Collins has written an easy to understand (but not simplistic) book about personal finance, money and investing that grew out of a series of letters to his daughter.  His premise is that since money is the single most powerful tool we have for navigating the complex world we live in, understanding it is critical.   Collins outlines an uncomplicated approach to money that is not only easy to understand and implement, it is more powerful than anything more complex or complicated.  Here are the topics he discusses:

Debt:   Why you must avoid it and what to do if you have it.

The importance of having F-you Money.

How to think about money, and the unique way understanding this is key to building your wealth.

Where traditional investing advice goes wrong and what actually works.

What the stock market really is and how it really works.

Why the stock market always goes up and why most people still lose money investing in it.

How to invest in a raging bull, or bear, market.

Specific investments to implement these strategies.

The Wealth Building and Wealth Preservation phases of your investing life and why they are not always tied to your age.

How your asset allocation is tied to those phases and how to choose it.

How to simplify the sometimes confusing world of 401(k), 403(b), TSP, IRA and Roth accounts.

TRFs (Target Retirement Funds), HSAs (Health Savings Accounts) and RMDs (Required Minimum Distributions).

What investment firm to use.

Why you should be very cautious when engaging an investment advisor and whether you need to at all.

Why and how you can be conned, and how to avoid becoming prey.

Why dollar cost averaging is not recommended.

What financial independence looks like and how to have your money support you.

What the 4% rule is and how to use it to safely spend your wealth.

The truth behind Social Security.

 

Quotes 

“There are many things money can buy, but the most valuable of all is freedom. Freedom to do what you want and to work for whom you respect.”

 

“I may not have owned a Mercedes, but I owned my freedom.  Freedom to choose when to leave a job and freedom from worry when the choice wasn’t mine.”

 

“Being independently wealthy is every bit as much about limiting needs as it is about how much money you have. It has less to do with how much you earn—high-income earners often go broke while low-income earners get there—than what you value. Money can buy many things, none of which is more important than your financial independence.

 

“It’s a big beautiful world out there. Money is a small part of it. But F-You Money buys you the freedom, resources and time to explore it on your own terms. Retired or not. Enjoy your journey.”

 

“It’s not hard. Stop thinking about what your money can buy. Start thinking about what your money can earn. And then think about what the money it earns can earn.”

 

“Three things saved us:  Our unwavering 50% savings rate. Avoiding debt. We’ve never even had a car payment. Finally embracing the indexing lessons Jack Bogle—the founder of The Vanguard Group and the inventor of index funds—perfected 40 years ago.”

 

“Look again at those people around you. For most, debt is simply a part of life. But it doesn’t have to be for you. You weren’t born to be a slave.”

 

“If your goal is financial independence, it is also to hold as little debt as possible. This means you’ll seek the least house to meet your needs rather than the most house you can technically afford.”

 

“Wisdom comes from experience. Experience is often a result of lack of wisdom.”

 

My Take

I have long been a reader of JL Collins’ blog and especially recommend reading his famous Stock Series, which provides the best explanation and analysis of investing in stocks that I have come across (and I have read a lot on this subject).  The Simple Path to Wealth is expands on the Stock Series and contains a lot of straightforward, easy to understand (but not always easy to do) advice on how to save and invest so that you can’t help but become wealthy (and it won’t take too long to do it).  I have given my 19 year old son and my teenaged niece and nephew this book to read and I will be ordering more copies to give away as high school and college graduation gifts.  While my husband and I are already basically retired, we could have gotten here a lot sooner by starting to follow the advice set forth in The Simple Path to Wealth when we first married 23 years ago.

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168. Everything I Never Told You

Rating:  ☆☆☆☆1/2

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Author:   Celeste Ng

Genre:  Fiction

304 pages, published August 14, 2014

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

Leo Tolstoy’s famous opening line from Anna Karenina “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way” is certainly applicable to Everything I Never Told You which tells the story of an American family in the 1970’s.  Parents James and Marilyn and James Lee are an interracial couple.  James is Chinese and has always felt a desire to fit in.  Marilyn is a frustrated stay at home mother who abandoned her Medical School dreams when she got pregnant in college.  Together, James and Marilyn pour all of their expectations and unattained dreams into Lydia, their oldest daughter, with tragic consequences.

 

Quotes 

“The things that go unsaid are often the things that eat at you–whether because you didn’t get to have your say, or because the other person never got to hear you and really wanted to.”

 

“It would disappear forever from her memory of Lydia, the way memories of a lost loved one always smooth and simplify themselves, shedding complexities like scales.”

 

“What made something precious? Losing it and finding it.”

 

“How had it begun? Like everything: with mothers and fathers. Because of Lydia’s mother and father, because of her mother’s and father’s mothers and fathers.”

 

“You loved so hard and hoped so much and then you ended up with nothing. Children who no longer needed you. A husband who no longer wanted you. Nothing left but you, alone, and empty space.”

 

“Before that she hadn’t realized how fragile happiness was, how if you were careless, you could knock it over and shatter it.”

 

“Lydia, five years old, standing on tiptoe to watch vinegar and baking soda foam in the sink. Lydia tugging a heavy book from the shelf, saying, “Show me again, show me another.” Lydia, touching the stethoscope, ever so gently, to her mother’s heart. Tears blur Marilyn’s sight. It had not been science that Lydia had loved.”

 

“You never got what you wanted; you just learned to get by without it.”

 

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then what? Force yourself to smile. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy.”

 

“Sometimes you almost forgot: that you didn’t look like everyone else. In homeroom or at the drugstore or at the supermarket, you listened to morning announcements or dropped off a roll of film or picked up a carton of eggs and felt like just another someone in the crowd. Sometimes you didn’t think about it at all. And then sometimes you noticed the girl across the aisle watching, the pharmacist watching, the checkout boy watching, and you saw yourself reflected in their stares: incongruous. Catching the eye like a hook. Every time you saw yourself from the outside, the way other people saw you, you remembered all over again.”

 

“He can guess, but he won’t ever know, not really. What it was like, what she was thinking, everything she’d never told him.”

 

My Take

In Everything I Never Told You, Celeste Ng tells a compelling story about a dysfunctional family and the dangers of parents who try to work out their own issues through their children.  Ng makes you feel the incredible weight that parental expectations can place on a child.  In my own life, as both a child and a parent, I have had to navigate this difficult terrain.  While we all want to please our parents and see our children succeed (at least most of us do).  We need be true to ourselves and give our children the freedom to do the same.

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166. The Darlings

Rating:  ☆☆☆1/2

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Author:   Christina Alger

Genre:  Fiction

347 pages, published February 16, 2012

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

The Darlings tells the story of an elite New York family dealing with a financial scandal that threatens all of them in different ways.  When he married Merrill Darling, attorney Paul Ross became part of the wealthy Darling family.  He has grown comfortable with their luxurious lifestyle and feels compelled to keep it going after his high flying law firms implodes in 2007.  Against his better judgment, Paul accepts a job as General Counsel at his father in law’s hedge fund.  When the manager of the fund’s primary investment apparently commits suicide and is revealed to be a Bernie Madoff type, all the wheels start to come off for the Darlings.  Paul must decide whether save himself while betraying his wife and in-laws or protect the family business at all costs.

 

Quotes 

“The greatest strength you can have is to know your own strengths. You’ve got to figure out what you’re good at and make the most of it.”

 

“How inexplicable and enviable, never to want to be anywhere other than where you already are.”

 

“To be jealous of money is uninspired … You can only be jealous of someone who has something that you can never have. More style, for example, or wit. Money is easily earned.”

 

“You’re perfect. To me you are. You always will be. When you’re small you think that about your parents. When you’re old, you think that about your kids. You’ll see.”

 

“Diving in is no fun, but it’s a hell of a lot better than drowning.”

 

“And what should he have known? Well, who could answer that? Thought he was closer to all the players than anyone, he still couldn’t identify who was responsible and who wasn’t. Really responsible, not just “look the other way” responsible. They all were, in some larger sense. And yet, while he knew this was a wholly indefensible position, he felt that somehow none of them were, either. Just like the guys at Lehmen, or Bear Stearns, or AIG. Just like the guys at Delphic. It became a game, a contest; the only rules that governed were what made you money and what didn’t. All Paul did was hang the hell on and try not to get thrown.”

 

“The constant mental fight made him irritable. He had never had a temper before. Some days, he felt as if his entire body were a raw nerve, its membrane receptive even to the smallest passing slight.”

 

“And all women wanted something. Ines felt strongly that women were rarely friends with one another unless they could get something out of it. Female friendships were like strategic alliances: Each party had to bring something to the table in order to maintain equity.”

 

My Take

The Darlings is a fast reading page turner that I had a hard time putting down.  Cristina Alger takes you inside the privileged world of New York City.  While most of her focus is on the financial sector, she also offers a glimpse inside high powered law firms, the newspaper industry and leisure in the Hamptons for the millionaires and billionaires.  It would have been a more satisfying novel, and earned a higher score from me, if it had fleshed out and developed the side characters a bit more.  However, even with that deficiency, I recommend reading it.  Perfect escapism.

 

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164. 100 Days of Happiness: a novel (2nd Reading)

Rating:  ☆☆☆☆☆

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Author:   Fausto Brizzi

Genre:  Fiction, Happiness

368 pages, published August 11, 2015

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

100 Days of Happiness tells the story of Lucio Battistini, a resident of Rome, who is separated from his wife Paola and their two young children (Lorenzo and Eva) after she learns that he has had an affair.  Lucio is sleeping in the stock room of his father-in-law’s bakery when he learns that he has inoperable cancer and only 100 days to live, give or take.  Lucio buys a notebook and the first item he writes in it is to win back Paola.  Lucio spends the next three months trying to do that and also enjoying every moment with a zest he hasn’t felt in years.  By the end of the journey, Lucio becomes the man he’s always meant to be.

 

Quotes 

“I know her by heart, and that doesn’t make me love her any less. Like a Dante scholar who learns the entire Divine Comedy and then just appreciates the poem even more profoundly.”

 

“The important thing is to make sure that when death comes, it finds us still alive.”

 

“Always remember that the only riches we possess are the dreams we have as children. They are the fuel of our lives, the only force that pushes us to keep on going even when things have gone all wrong.”

 

“Just work, work, work, even at the risk of making mistakes. And if and when you do make mistakes, and you do hurt someone, ask for forgiveness. Asking forgiveness and admitting you’ve made a mistake is the hardest thing of all. But if someone else does you good, remember it always. Showing gratitude is every bit as complicated.”

 

“Every one of us has already experienced thousands of last times without even realizing it. Most of the time, in fact, you never even imagine that what you’re experiencing is the last time.”

 

“It makes me sad. Everything, even good things, makes me sad.”

 

“A chitchat shop. Simple but brilliant. Not even Leonardo da Vinci ever came up with this one. It’s like a pharmacy that stocks friendship.”

 

“Sometimes real troubles give you a strength you never had before”

 

Papà was a professional bullshit artist so outstanding in his lying skills that if he’d set his mind to it, he could easily have become prime minister of Italy.

 

My Take

A mantra of one of my favorite writers and happiness guru Gretchen Rubin is that the best reading is re-reading.  I took that to sentiment to heart when I re-read 100 Days of Happiness (the first re-read during my thousand book quest) (this time I read the book instead of listening to the audiobook).  It was time well spent because I loved this book even more the second time through.  While I still enjoyed themes and characters, on the second reading, I noticed all of the small details that give Lucio’s world texture and depth.  His daughter saying “meow” instead of “ciao,” the marriage proposal to his wife that was spoiled by his best friend Umberto, his reminiscing about youth travel when he tries to relive the experience 25 years later, the folks who inhabit the Chit Chat shop, and the regular invocation of Leonardo Da Vinci.  While 100 Days of Happiness made me think again about how I would live my life if the end was near, I also just loved spending time with Lucio, his family and friends.  Highly recommended.

 

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162. Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet

Rating:  ☆☆☆1/2

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Author:   Jamie Ford

Genre:  Historical Fiction, Fiction, Romance, World War II

290 pages, published January 27, 2009

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

The Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet is set in World War II era Seattle and tells the story of two star-crossed lovers (well actually friends who love each other):  Henry Lee, a 13 year old Chinese kid whose father is obsessed with the war in China and having Henry grow up American , and Keiko Okabe, a young Japanese American girl whose parents are proud to be American but are becoming increasingly worried after war breaks out with Japan.  Both Henry and Keiko are “scholarshipping” at the exclusive Rainier Elementary school where the two outcasts find each other while working together in the school cafeteria.  When the internment of American-Japanese families begins, Henry and Keiko are torn apart.  Fate separates them until forty years later, when newly widowed Henry contemplates finding his first true love.

 

Quotes 

“The hardest choices in life aren’t between what’s right and what’s wrong but between what’s right and what’s best.”

 

“He’d do what he always did, find the sweet among the bitter.”

 

“Henry was learning that time apart has a way of creating distance- more than mountains and time zone separating them. Real distance, the kind that makes you ache and stop wondering. Longing so bad that it begins to hurt to care so much.”

 

“I had my chance.’ He said it, retiring from a lifetime of wanting. ‘I had my chance, and sometimes in life, there are no second chances. You look at what you have, not what you miss, and you move forward.”

 

“But choosing to lovingly care for her was like steering a plane into a mountain as gently as possible. The crash is imminent; it’s how you spend your time on the way down that counts.”

 

“I try not to live in the past, he thought, but who knows, sometimes the past lives in me.”

 

“The waitress brought a fresh pot of tea, and Marty refilled his father’s cup and poured a cup for Samantha. Henry in turn filled Marty’s. It was a tradition Henry cherished—never filling your own cup, always filling that of someone else, who would return the favor.”

 

My Take

The Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet is a quick and enjoyable read that does a fine job of demonstrating the staggering impact of the World War II internment on the Japanese families who were forced to abandon their homes, businesses and lives.  The characters are engaging and provide a sweet lens through which to view a historical atrocity.

 

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161. Family Life

Rating:  ☆☆☆

Recommended by:

Author:   Akhil Sharma

Genre:  Fiction

240 pages, published April 7, 2014

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

 

In Family Life, Akhil Sharma tells the story of the Mishra family.  It begins in India in 1978, where eight-year-old Ajay and his older brother Birju play cricket in the streets and wait for the day when their plane tickets will arrive and they and their mother can fly across the world and join their father in America.  America is everything that the Mishras could have imagined and more.  Older Birju studies hard and his work pays off with admittance to a selective charter school in New York.  However, before he can start, tragedy strikes and Birju is left in a brain-damaged state.  The family copes in different ways.  The father becomes an alcoholic, emotionally abandoning the family for solace at the bottom of a bottle.  The mother redoubles her focus on the older brother who is unable to respond to her.  Younger brother Ajay turns to writing and tries to match the academic achievement of his older brother.

Quotes 

“An elderly black man with gray hair said, “Every bottle should come with a warning: ‘This bottle may cause you to lose your job. This bottle may cause you to get a divorce. This bottle may cause you to become homeless.”

 

“I used to think my father had been assigned to us by the government.”

 

“During the coming days, the wealth of America kept astonishing me. The television had programming from morning till night. I had never been in an elevator before and when I pressed a button in the elevator and the elevator “started moving, I felt powerful that it had to obey me. In our shiny brass mailbox in the lobby, we received ads on colored paper. In India colored paper could be sold to the recycler for more money than newsprint. The sliding glass doors of our apartment building would open when we approached. Each time this happened, I felt that we had been mistaken for somebody important.”

 

“We have to keep trusting God. We can’t just trust God when he’s doing what we want. We have to trust him even when things are not as we would like them.”

 

“I had been nervous about not doing well in college. During my first class, I looked at the notes the boy next to me was taking. His supply and demand curves seemed more neatly drawn than mine. Nearly everyone appeared to have gone to preparatory schools and already knew such odd things as the fact that there was no inflation during the Middle Ages. Very few, however, were willing to work the way I did.  When I would come out of Firestone Library at two in the morning, walk past the strange statues scattered around campus, and then sit at my desk in my room till the trees in the yard appeared out of the darkness, I felt that I was achieving something, that every hour I worked was generating almost physical value, as if I could touch the knowledge I was gaining through my work.”

 

My Take

While I enjoyed Family Life, it did not fully deliver on the promise of the first 50 pages, getting bogged down in the mundane details of the Mishra’s day to day family life with a mentally impaired son.  Perhaps that is the point, but I found my interest flagging during this section of the book.  Sharma is a gifted writer, but I didn’t love this book.

 

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160. Buying In: The Secret Dialogue Between What We Buy and Who We Are

Rating:  ☆☆1/2

Recommended by:

Author:   Rob Walker

Genre:  Non-Fiction, Business, Psychology, Economics

261 pages, published January 1, 2008

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

The themes of Buying In is that brands are dead, advertising no longer works, and consumers are in control.  Rob Walker argues that as a result, there has been an important cultural shift that includes a practice he calls murketing, in which people create brands of their own and participate in marketing campaigns for their favorites.  Rather than becoming immune to them, we are rapidly embracing brands.  Profiling Timberland, American Apparel, Pabst Blue Ribbon, Red Bull, iPod, and Livestrong, among others, Walker demonstrates the ways in which buyers adopt products not just as consumer choices but as conscious expressions of their identities.

 

My Take

I picked up Buying In off the shelf at a Malibu vacation rental we were staying at, having heard nothing about the book.  With swaths of free time and a four day deadline to read it, I managed to finish the book.  While I learned a few somewhat interesting things about marketing for different brands, the book barely held my attention.  If you work in the field of marketing and brands, then this book is for you.  If not, my advice is to skip it.

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158. An Altar in the World: A Geography of Faith

Rating:  ☆☆☆☆

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Author:   Barbara Brown Taylor

Genre:  Non-Fiction, Theology, Christian, Memoir

216 pages, published February 10, 2009

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

In An Altar in the World, Barbara Brown Taylor shares how she learned to encounter God beyond the walls of any church.  From simple practices such as walking, working, and getting lost to deep meditations on topics like prayer and pronouncing blessings, Taylor reveals practical ways to discover the sacred in the small things we do and see. Something as ordinary as hanging clothes on a clothesline becomes an act of devotion if we pay attention to what we are doing and take time to attend to the sights, smells, and sounds around us.  Making eye contact with the cashier at the grocery store becomes a moment of true human connection. Allowing yourself to get lost leads to new discoveries.  All of her methods share a common theme of taking the time to step outside your normal routine and thoughtfully contemplate the myriad blessings that surround each and every one of us.

 

Quotes 

“To make bread or love, to dig in the earth, to feed an animal or cook for a stranger—these activities require no extensive commentary, no lucid theology. All they require is someone willing to bend, reach, chop, stir. Most of these tasks are so full of pleasure that there is no need to complicate things by calling them holy. And yet these are the same activities that change lives, sometimes all at once and sometimes more slowly, the way dripping water changes stone. In a world where faith is often construed as a way of thinking, bodily practices remind the willing that faith is a way of life.”

 

“Wisdom is not gained by knowing what is right. Wisdom is gained by practicing what is right, and noticing what happens when that practice succeeds and when it fails.”

 

“Whoever you are, you are human. Wherever you are, you live in the world, which is just waiting for you to notice the holiness in it.”

 

“Who had persuaded me that God preferred four walls and a roof to wide-open spaces? When had I made the subtle switch myself, becoming convinced that church bodies and buildings were the safest and most reliable places to encounter the living God?”

 

“People encounter God under shady oak trees, on riverbanks, at the tops of mountains, and in long stretches of barren wilderness. God shows up in whirlwinds, starry skies, burning bushes, and perfect strangers. When people want to know more about God, the son of God tells them to pay attention to the lilies of the field and the birds of the air, to women kneading bread and workers lining up for their pay. Whoever wrote this stuff believed that people could learn as much about the ways of God from paying attention to the world as they could from paying attention to scripture. What is true is what happens, even if what happens is not always right. People can learn as much about the ways of God from business deals gone bad or sparrows falling to the ground as they can from reciting the books of the Bible in order. They can learn as much from a love affair or a wildflower as they can from knowing the Ten Commandments by heart.”

 

“but I know that I have an easier time loving humankind than I do loving particular human beings.”

 

“Plato once said that pain restores order to the soul. Rumi said that it lops off the branches of indifference. “The throbbing vein / will take you further / than any thinking.”14 Whatever else it does, pain offers an experience of being human that is as elemental as birth, orgasm, love, and death. Because it is so real, pain is an available antidote to unreality—not the medicine you would have chosen, perhaps, but an effective one all the same. The next time you are in real pain, see how you feel about television shows, new appliances, a clean house, or your resumé. Chances are that none of these will do anything for you. All that will do anything for you is some cool water, held out by someone who has stopped everything else in order to look after you. An extra blanket might also help, a dry pillow, the simple knowledge that there is someone in the house who might hear you if you cried.”

 

“According to the Talmud, every blade of grass has its own angel bending over it, whispering, “Grow, grow.”

 

“All I am saying is that anyone can do this. Anyone can ask and anyone can bless, whether anyone has authorized you to do it or not. All I am saying is that the world needs you to do this, because there is a real shortage of people willing to kneel wherever they are and recognize the holiness holding its sometimes bony, often tender, always life-giving hand above their heads. That we are able to bless one another at all is evidence that we have been blessed, whether we can remember when or not. That we are willing to bless one another is miracle enough to stagger the very stars.”

 

“The great wisdom traditions of the world all recognize that the main impediment to living a life of meaning is being self-absorbed.”

 

“To see takes time, like having a friend takes time. It is as simple as turning off the television to learn the song of a single bird. Why should anyone do such things? I cannot imagine—unless one is weary of crossing days off the calendar with no sense of what makes the last day different from the next. Unless one is weary of acting in what feels more like a television commercial than a life. The practice of paying attention offers no quick fix for such weariness, with guaranteed results printed on the side. Instead, it is one way into a different way of life, full of treasure for those who are willing to pay attention to exactly where they are.”

 

“No one longs for what he or she already has, and yet the accumulated insight of those wise about the spiritual life suggests that the reason so many of us cannot see the red X that marks the spot is because we are standing on it. The treasure we seek requires no lengthy expedition, no expensive equipment, no superior aptitude or special company. All we lack is the willingness to imagine that we already have everything we need. The only thing missing is our consent to be where we are.”

 

“Every human interaction offers you the chance to make things better or to make things worse.”

 

“The problem is, many of the people in need of saving are in churches, and at least part of what they need saving from is the idea that God sees the world the same way they do.”

 

“What is saving my life now is the conviction that there is no spiritual treasure to be found apart from the bodily experiences of human life on earth. My life depends on engaging the most ordinary physical activities with the most exquisite attention I can give them. My life depends on ignoring all touted distinctions between the secular and the sacred, the physical and the spiritual, the body and the soul. What is saving my life now is becoming more fully human, trusting that there is no way to God apart from real life in the real world.”

 

“Whatever I decided to do for a living, it was not what I did but how I did it that mattered.”

 

“You shall love the stranger, for you were strangers in the land of Egypt.” Those most likely to befriend strangers, in other words, are those who have been strangers themselves. The best way to grow empathy for those who are lost is to know what it means to be lost yourself.”

 

“Since some people consider being human a liability, and “fully” would only make things worse, I should perhaps explain what I mean. To become fully human means learning to turn my gratitude for being alive into some concrete common good. It means growing gentler toward human weakness. It means practicing forgiveness of my and everyone else’s hourly failures to live up to divine standards. It means learning to forget myself on a regular basis in order to attend to the other selves in my vicinity. It means living so that “I’m only human” does not become an excuse for anything. It means receiving the human condition as blessing and not curse, in all its achingly frail and redemptive reality. “The glory of God is a human being fully alive,” wrote Irenaeus of Lyons some two thousand years ago. One of the reasons I remain a Christian-in-progress is the peculiar Christian insistence that God is revealed in humankind—not just in human form but also in human being.”

 

My Take

An Alter in the World planted a wonderful idea in my brain, i.e., we should not just worship God in church, but should worship Him in everything that we encounter and experience, including nature, our bodies, work, suffering, and most of all in other people.  In a very accessible manner, Taylor relates how we can find God and joy in all things, especially in our humanness.  I got a lot out of this book and will keep it in mind for a future re-read.

 

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155. Everything Changes

Rating:  ☆☆☆☆

Recommended by:

Author:   Jonathan Tropper

Genre:  Fiction, Humor

352 pages, published March 28, 2006

Reading Format:  Book

 

Summary

Everything Changes tells the story of Zachary King.  In his appearance to the outside world, Zack has it all.  A steady, well-paying job, a rent-free luxurious Manhattan apartment, and an engagement to Hope, who is beautiful, smart, and from a wealthy family.  However, as the wedding day looms, Zack finds himself haunted by the memory of his best friend, Rael, killed in a car wreck two years earlier—and by his increasingly complicated feelings for Tamara, the beautiful widow Rael left behind.  When Norm, Zack’s unemployed,  freewheeling, Viagra-popping father, resurfaces after a twenty-year absence, looking to make amends, Zack begins to question everything in his life.

 

Quotes 

“You can never totally hate someone who sang you to sleep like that, can you? Who calmed you down and eased your fears. You can feel angry and betrayed, but some part of you will always love them for being there on those scary nights, for giving you a place to run to where your nightmares couldn’t follow, the one place where you could descend finally into slumber knowing, at least for the time being, that you were completely safe.”

 

“The really good liars, the true grandmasters of bullshit, are so damn convincing because they actually believe their own lies.”

 

“Few things are more pathetic than an unemployed man with a business card.”

 

“it’s a point of pride whenever you can point to the ways in which you’re avoiding your progenitor’s defective character. I’m not like him becomes your mantra,”

 

“Things have been going too well for me lately. I feel like I have some bad karma headed my way.” Tamara frowns at me as she leads me toward the dressing rooms. “That’s a pretty dire outlook on life,” she says. “What’s the point in working to be happy if you’re going to be constantly looking over your shoulder, wondering when it’s time to pay the bill?”

 

“The reason wisdom is meant to be imparted is because you acquire it only after it’s too late to apply to yourself.”

 

“I wake up like this, this sense that I’ve somehow been transported to an alternate universe where my life took a left instead of a right because of some seemingly insignificant yet cosmically crucial choice I’ve made, about a girl or a kiss or a date or a job or which Starbucks I went into…something.”

 

My Take

Having previously read and thoroughly enjoyed several books by Jonathan Tropper (The Book of Joe, This is Where I Leave You, and One Last Thing Before I Go), I had high hopes for Everything Changes.  I was not disappointed.  Tropper has a knack for creating colorful, sometimes eccentric (and always entertaining) characters that retain enough of their humanity that they seem like real people.  He then puts them in situations that combine pathos with the outlandish.  The result is often extremely humorous with an undercurrent of the poignant.  Everything Changes hits all of these notes and it was a pleasure to read.